The problem with actually saying stuff on a blog is that people will disagree. I don't particularly like disagreement. I'd much rather we were all happy hanging out here together... Or arguing lightly about stuff that we don't really care about either way.
Notice how women commenters felt the issue of schooling much more strongly than guy commenters? We've got so much invested in our kids and want so much to do everything the best way.
I have no doubt that all of you (especially those who disagree with me) are very committed to your children and want what is best for them. Nor do I doubt your commitment to Jesus. If you lived nearby and came to my church I think we would be good friends.
So is it judgmental for me to hold strong views which are incompatible with your views?
What about if I really believed in infant baptism and thought all you believer's baptism types were sinning? Could I express that view without being judgmental? Even if I couched it all in nice language and said I didn't think your opinions were a salvation matter, the truth would remain that I seriously believed you were doing the wrong thing. Should I express that or keep it to myself? [I care nothing about the baptism issue.]
My pro-state school position comes from my foundational view that in normal circumstances*, we should aim for the greatest good (educational and gospel) for the greatest number of people. I rank what is good for the whole system ahead of what is good for my particular (normal-ish) child. Some will think this callous. Fair enough. Rather than list 16 points as I did, it probably would have made for a more useful conversation if I stated my underlying principle and we argued from there. It probably would have removed it a little from the practical outworkings and kept some hurt out.
So, if you'd like to keep this going, pick an option.
In the case of a normal-ish child (ie. not a special needs case)
a.) We should make our schooling decisions based on the 'greatest good for the greatest number' principle.
b.) We should make our schooling decisions based on what is best for our child.
c.) This is completely the wrong question to be asking. The better question is...............
But I think it's almost time to put this topic to bed. I don't want to be known in blogland as a horrible person who thinks badly of everyone else (I don't. Really, I don't.) And in these last 3 posts I have blown my policy of minding my own business on family type things. Just for fun, leave an 'a', 'b' or 'c' in the comment box and I'll resume regular blogging. I'm sure the third eagle of the apocalypse has something amusing for us to watch.
* I think kids with special needs are in a category of their own and parents should do whatever they can to make education happen effectively and happily for their SN children. I wish there could be excellent public schooling options for all children whether they have SN or not, but this is not the case at the moment.