... if I stop asking God to give me gifts that I don't have and instead be bold in asking him to help me use the gifts I do have for the best possible good?
There are many gifts that I feel I ought to have (being a minister's wife and all!) but don't have as part of my personal make up. I believe that practice makes you better at things, so I could apply myself to the diligent cultivation of such gifts. For the last many years I've felt that faithful service of God meant me desiring a 'minister's wife' gift-set*.
But now I'm wondering if a true understanding of the body and of humility requires me to just be content with who I am. There are all sorts of things that I'm not good at. Others will need to do these things. Because if I did do them, I wouldn't have time to do the things which are actually my thing. (And I'm pretty bad at them anyway.)
Now, you are probably thinking 'Duh! Of course!' But what if I made a list of the gifts I don't have and have decided not to pursue, and you find that they are the things that you think are the most important of all - the particular gifts that you think all else should be sacrificed for? Would that make a difference?
*interestingly, I've always defined the minister's wife gift-set as that particular set of gifts I don't have!