How To Care For Extroverts.
1. Respect our need for conversation. Honestly, if we are standing together at a party or something for half an hour, I am going to say something to you. It is awkward and unnatural for me if there is no communication between us. I feel stupid if everyone else in the room is in a conversation and I'm not. And I'll be bored. So I'll introduce some light, social chit chat. Or I might as you about yourself. Don't get all introvert-righteous. 'Her conversation was so shallow blah blah blah' or 'She wanted to know all this stuff about me.' I will make conversation because I need to. Respect that.
2. Realise that conversation is a two-way street. If we are in a situation where we are required to talk, you need to play your part. As an extrovert, I'll usually initiate the conversation (but it's nice if I don't always have to - see point 3) but it is your job to keep it going. Generally, one or two word answers are unhelpful.
Me: What have you been up to today?
Introvert : Nothing much.
Me: Anything on for tomorrow?
Introvert: Not really.
AAARRRGGHHH! Blood from stone! GIVE ME SOMETHING TO WORK WITH!!!!
3. Sometimes be the one to initiate conversation. It takes a lot of energy (even for extroverts) to always be taking charge of social situations. Why not start a conversation yourself? Just for a change! It may make your friend's day!
4. Don't call us shallow because we can do light-touch conversation. We do it because it is often needed. If you want the conversation to go deeper, then take it deeper. Offer more.
5. Don't assume that social embarrassment is easier for your extroverted friend to deal with than it is for you to deal with. It isn't. He is dying underneath the happy face. Show some kindness.
6. Remember that it is possible (and common) to be the life of the party and feel utterly alone. Don't make assumptions. Don't think you are the only exhausted, miserable, lonely person in the room.
7. If your extroverted friend is feeling depressed or a bit down, company and a new environment may help. Suggest you go out somewhere together.
8. Don't hide behind your introversion. Let people get to know you and buck up and do what needs to be done.
9. Don't quote research at us that says that introverts are cleverer than extroverts. Even if it were true, it would only be true on averages and therefore says nothing about whether or not you are cleverer than me. (The fact that you didn't realise that makes me suspect that you are a less-clever than average introvert.)
10. Enough with the whining! Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop writing these dumb posts about how misunderstood you are. You are who you are. Sit up and make life happen.