Ever noticed how everyone always says good things about a funeral? It was lovely. It was a beautiful service.
Andrew gets more positive feedback from funerals he conducts than from anything else he does at church.
I've often wondered why this is.
Having taken part in a couple of family funerals in recent weeks, here are my thoughts.
1. People give good feedback about funerals because once they are done they are done. No one eagerly anticipates a funeral. The death part is horrible. The days post-death, organising the funeral, are stressy and tense. But we're so glad once the funeral is over! The relief that we got through it makes us enjoy it in retrospect.
2. People say good things about funerals because if the service is conducted 'well', death is put back in a box and buried. We don't have to think about it so much anymore.
3. People say good things about funerals because it feels good to cry and laugh with others. This is one of those rare situations where it's okay to be emotional. You can let it out. For those away from the centre of the loss (i.e.. those for whom the loss if sad, but not tragic), post funeral you can feel slightly high on the hormones released.