It's got me thinking again about friendship.
What is a friend, anyway?
|1.||a person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty;|
|2.||an acquaintance or associate|
|3.||an ally in a fight or cause; supporter|
|4.||a fellow member of a party, society, etc|
|5.||a patron or supporter: a friend of the opera|
|6.||be friends to be friendly (with)|
|7.||make friends to become friendly (with)|
According to this definition, there is no reason why men and women can't be friends. A man may fight alongside me for a common cause. He may, through the course of life, become well known to me. I should regard him as a friend. The question is, whether sexual desire trumps and nullifies all else. The men in the video thought so.
Sexual desire inevitably complicates a friendship (and it lurks in pretty much all male/female interactions), and puts (often annoying) boundaries on how far it can rightly progress... but, hey, in this fallen world, all friendships are complicated. What about the envy and competitiveness I feel while doing lunch with the school mums? And what about people with homosexual desires? Are all warm human interactions impossible for them? Has lust drowned out all else?
But of course I'd say that. I'm female.